Tips for making a marriage successful?
April 19, 2010 by admin
Filed under Parenting FAQ
I am newly married…only a few months in and love it. But I would like tips from people on making a marriage successful longterm, whether it is something from your own personal experience or maybe a piece of advice you picked up from parents or grandparents that had a really long, happy and great marriage. Thanks!
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Hold hands as often as you can… kiss many times a day… sleep close to one another… and be each others best friend.
You have to build a BIG internal world so that it reflects on the outside. The moment you flatline, your marriage will be in trouble.
Communication and Compromise. Oh and knowing before getting married that the person is 100% what you want don’t settle, because you can’t change people. The best advice I received before I got married.
the truth is, no one can have marriages like their parents or grandparents had.
but you can start with keeping promises you gave when you decide to get married.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090905152211AAwsphT
Make HIM more important than YOU. He, of course, needs to make YOU more important.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Pick your arguments. You can’t have it your way ALL the time, so give in — until it’s something you really, REALLY want, and then he should let you have it.
This may sound ridiculous, but READ ‘Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.’ It give terrific insight into how the other half perceives things! If you can, get him to read it too.
Praise him a LOT. No one ever gets as much praise as they really need. If you have something nice to say, say it.
Good luck!
First and most important……….you invited God to the wedding, now invite Him to the marriage. Give Him his rightful place as the head of your home!
You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.
If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.
Forget whether you’re right or wrong. The question is: Is what you’re doing working or not working?
There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it’s not working and be honest when it needs fixing.
Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.
You don’t fix things by fixing your partner.
Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.
Youu don’t necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.
Communicate. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder
just remember to be affectionate to him/her kiss , hold hands, tell them u love them and ext.
Physical connection.
No joke. If you go too long without any physical connection, you are headed for separate bedrooms. Trust me, Im there now.
Talk to each other about your day. No matter how insignificant or boring your day went, talk to him about and make sure that you are engaging in a conversation.
Make sure you are not fighting in front of others, Do not argue in front of company. Keep all of your private matters private.
Make sure you take breaks from each other. Do things separately. This way you wont get bored or lose yourself in your marriage.
Be wise with money. Its the number marriage killer you know?
Compromise on spending, and even though it technically is your money, its his money too so don’t waste it since you need to plan for your futures.
Make sure that you have sex. Three or four times a week, if you need to do it more, than by all means do so.
Its very important to keep the physical love going and keep the fire running. Be there for him and make sure he is there for you.
Stimulate each other emotionally, intellectually and well….physically.
Treat each other like you would treat your best friend because thats what you are to each other.
Avoid heated conversations and try to cool off before saying something you will regret.
I am telling you this because I wish someone would have told me before I got married.
Marriage is a huge serious committment. Its no joke and it should not be taken lightly. You have to be mature enough to compromise.
I am married 3 years now, and all I can say is , “I don’t know”.
I wish you much love and happiness and enjoy it.
Marriage is a full time business you get up every day and work at it’s success. You keep courting just like you did the get each other attention. Yes you will have days when you have some intense fellowship, arguments, that is normal. We go on a honeymoon every year, it does not need to be a extravagant place but some special time for you and your mate. Give those nerve recking kisses and a butt grab every now and then early in the morning on the way to work it will keep them thinking all day. Call them at work and talk trash.
Never lose your smile. Alwasy keep a healthy sense of communication, honor eachothers opinions whether you agree or not, you CAN agree to disagree. Realize that the first 4-5 years are learning years, hear eachother out to learn about eachothers understandings. Do NOT act out. Keep calm. Do NOT go to sleep angry. Learn to laugh at yourself, always fight fairly (bottom), speak to one another not through friends or devils advocates (nosey neighbors/family). Remind eachother regularly that you are a unit, a team and that you are happy to have such a great partner. Say I love you once a day either by words, acts, or notes. spontaneity is great. Just look into his eyes on occasion and smile. Print this out and keep it handy
These are some of the things my wife an I do. Remember some and all of the advice I have read was spot on both of you should read them.
- Never go to bed angry and without a kiss goodnight
- Do not bring work home, leave that stress in the driveway.
- pick at least one activity, video game or tv show you both like and do that together at least once a week.
- Communicate don’t let it get to the point of an argument before you take time to talk it out.
Compromise, communication, respect …. and love … easy !
Communication is key!!!