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Correcting children’s behavior without criticism

Do you sometimes feel like you are correcting your children too often? Or perhaps they are shutting down even before you begin reproaching them (for example, by rolling their eyes or actively ignoring you), showing that you are criticizing them excessively. In those moments you may realize that not only your efforts are not efficient, but they also provoke feelings of anxiety or anger.

You might even have a reasonable explanation for why you always criticize your children: maybe they are not following your requests and you end up repeating the same thing over and over again; or perhaps you feel that as a responsible adult who is in charge of their upbringing, it is a large part of your parenting job to constantly keep correcting them so no teachable moment will be missed. How else can you teach your children what they need to know, whether it is washing the dishes, making their beds, taking trash out, folding laundry or completing their homework?

A significant part of the parents’ job is to keep children in check and teach them to be independent. Yet if you find yourself constantly correcting, criticizing and reprimanding your children, the continuous pressure they are under will produce adults who believe they are not good enough. These children will end up giving up before they try, believing they can’t succeed.

Nevertheless, you still need to parent and guide your children. How can you do this, while creating a productive environment, colored by acceptance and trust instead of frustration and anger? A few practical principles will